7 methods to dominate him
Dominating a man, however submissive he might be, can be a challenging yet exciting experience. There are a series of methods that have proven to be effective with my submissive, and some of them are widely praised by other Dommes around the world that share the same exquisite taste of dominating their subs.
Chastity
This is my most favourite and by far most effective tool to use. The reason why this method works so well is because you’re literally limiting your submissive’s freedom. By locking up his most valuable parts, you make him completely helpless and surrendered to you. What I love about this is that he constantly craves your attention and is willing to go far and beyond to please you. This strongly reinforces his submission to you because he is constantly reminded of your greater power over him.
2. Worshipping/Mantra
Have your sub memorise and recite a sequence of sentences that you have written down as a form of worship to you. Make him recite the mantra everyday, for instance in the mornings or before going to bed. You can also randomly request him to recite the mantra at unexpected moments. For instance, you could ask him to do that while in a public space, maybe while sitting at a cafe. How exciting!
3. Rules of address
It’s important your submissive knows that his submission is also shown through his language. As a Domme you can decide the most appropriate form of address that your submissive needs to use when talking to you. When I speak with my submissive, I simply do not accept a simple “Yes” or “No” answer. Every sentence needs to be followed by my title. So he’s expected to say “Yes Goddess” or “No Goddess”.
4. Positionality
Sometimes an effective command takes place without any reminders. This happens when he knows exactly what his position to you is. If he knows he stands somewhat below you, he will learn to act accordingly. It helps to set a habit, repetitive actions that will become part of his routines to the point where he’ll spontaneously behave in a certain way. You can set a rule that says that when you’re at home he’s only allowed to walk around naked, only wearing a collar you’ve given to him. He has to crawl everywhere around the house and needs to ask permission to stand up if he needs to grab something from the dispenser or carry out daily chores. This way while you relaxingly do your thing, he’ll be reminded of your dominance over him with every step (or crawl) he takes. And you won’t have to say a thing, he will just do what you expect from him.
5. Positive reaffirmation
As a Domme you should always expect good behaviour from your sub, and rightly so. But showing him your appreciation can also be very valuable. Most of the times, he will make sure to do things that he knows will make you happy. But it can be equally important to let him know that by telling him that he’s a good boy or that you’re happy with his actions. This will instill a sense of joy in him knowing that he’s pleasing you and at the same time it will motivate him to do better. So while it can be pleasing for you to tell him what a good boy he is, it can also create a positive loop mechanism that will set him for more favourable actions towards you. It’s a win-win!
6. Punishment
As important as it is to show your satisfaction to your sub, it is equally fundamental to show him your dissatisfaction when he does something wrong. While positive reaffirmation can motivate your sub to do more good actions, punishment is pivotal to send a clear message that what he did is not okay. It’s important that punishments are proportionate to the mistake done, so that he can learn his lesson and you can keep your credibility. Simply letting things slide will make your sub believe that he can get a way with bad behaviours. If bad behaviours go unpunished, your submissive may become bratty overtime. At that point you’ll have to reinforce your discipline and perhaps go back to square one and teach him the basics of his submission to you.
7. Discipline
This summarises my previous points well. Dominance over submissives is something that needs to be reinforced routinely and consistently. You can do so by practicing harshness on him so that he knows how fierce you can be if he upsets you. For some submissive this works as they will then act at the best of their ability as to avoid the pain you can inflict upon him. But discipline can also take the form of reminding your submissive that he’s lucky to be under the demise of a powerful Domme who dedicates her time and space to him. That can keep him motivated to serve you in the best way he can because the idea of disappointing you would devastate him.
In conclusion, I believe that every powerful Domme should be able to exercise her dominance by setting her expectations clear and consistently training her sub to obey her requests. This way a submissive will know what to do, or not do, to keep you satisfied.
